I’m always a shock absorber to my friends. There was this girl friend of mine who just cry at the cr this morning. She text me and asks me if I could call her. I’m on a night shift kaya sobrang hirap for me to stay awake that morning. She said, her boyfriend is one of her precious possession… Yung relationship nila sobrang daming trials that they’ve been through and I’m one of their witness sa mga dinaanan nila. She also have a brother na halos parang siya na ang tumatayong mom and dad. I could relate on her kasi parang pareho kami ng status pagdating sa family. It’s already June and she needs to enroll her brother for college plus down payment for the house other expenses. Before starting the month of May, she already talked to her boyfriend that she will need his help to lend money sa uncle niya. She can actually afford to get the money but she’ll need the money earlier. Basically, babayaran niya as soon as possible like 3 weeks after.
Her boyfriend’s family was so close to her na sobra sa support na binibigay for her. Her boyfriend’s ex girlfriend had 5 years relationship pero mas nagging close pa siya sa family for like less than a year. Yun daw yung pinaka hirap siyang iwan every time she wanna give up their relationship. It seems that every time she seeks for help, boyfriend took it as a burden. Ever since na nagmeet sila as in the very first time eh may prob din siya. Actually, she added when her father died, after the 9th day of his father’s death nakikipag split si boyfriend dahil sa mga problems na dinadala niya. She just love this guy so much na kahit masakit tinatangap niya. Until such time na sobra na “daw” siyang love ni boyfriend and they’re celebrating their 2nd anniversary ngayon. As a friend, I could see that this guy really changed a lot. Yeah, he really shows how he values my friend now and hindi na siya madalas makipag break up. Hated sundo and madalas manuyo…I knew him by heart already. Madali makipag break for him if he can leave without that person. Pero hindi na ngayon. The thing is, alam kong wala ako sa right position to give any comments about it. However, we all know that it’s not just LOVE that we need in every relationships. Dapat may give and take, hindi laging give ng give yung isang party. Dapat even, If the other party tries to understand the other… dapat ganun din yung isa. I know that when I love a person, I love unconditionally. Pero mga friends…. It doesn’t mean na MAG PAKA MARTYR TAYO??? It’s not our role… hindi na uso yun! There should be limitations sa lahat ng bagay.
Ang kinakaasar ng boyfriend niya is bakit lagi nalang friend ko umuunawa sa brother nito… hello, kung kausap lang kita dude, sabihin ko sayo na “sa bother lang ba niya ginagawa yun”. Came to think of it… Mas magastos kayong dalawa kesa sa brother niya. I don’t want to compare you and his brother kasi obviously, you’re too much older than this kid. At kapatid yun! Both of you are not working; his just a student. I think last time tayong nagusap you keep on promising that you’ll look for a job. Bute sana if my friend is not referring you… pero ilang opportunities na binigay niya sayo that until now hindi mo ginawa? Don’t get me wrong, I’m not mad at you… I just hate the things that you do. Or the things that you don’t do as well. Gets mo or magulo ako hehe…Sana kung wala kang magawa for her, at least comfort her and huwag na dagdagan mga sakit niya.
And then this evening my friend text me again, she said she don’t know where she could find her boyfriend. Nagpalamig daw kasi, her boyfriend found out that his father was cheating his mom. Reasonable…. but the age, Kaya na natin to. It’s not bad to feel bad or upset about it. But for you to be so affected and sobrang magpaapekto is too much again. PROBLEMA, nandyan na yan… our parents are already old enough to think about their problems. We have to be strong for our mothers. Kung wala na sila, at least Makita manlang nila tayong marunong mag handle ang problem is a big help para hindi sila mag alala sa kabilang buhay. Madami nang problem friend ko. Sama mo na family niya and financially. Sabi niya sakin kanina, you don’t say a word pero nung ginigising ka niya parang ang sama ng loob mo to stand up and do what she was requesting you to do. Actually, as a boyfriend sayo lang naman siya makakatakbo right now. Kilala ko friend ko… She’s very independent. She already gets out of her comfort zone wherein she really stands on her own. Kung puwede lang na she won’t ask anything from you eh gagawin niya. Kumapit na siya sa patalim na mag loan, Dami na niyang gastos financially pero lumapit pa siya doon. Just to make sure na hindi ka na mamrublema. Night shift din siya, wala pang sleep… dapat sana nag rerest na siya pero naghahanap siya where to get the money. Sa init ng araw she went to her brother’s school para makiusap humabol brother niya sa Monday. She was crying the whole afternoon sayo and sa problem niya. She cannot sleep weel at almost 4pm na naka tulog. You called her around 5pm para sabihin yung problem mo about your dad, and she needs to wake up around 7pm dahil may work siya ng 10pm till 7am the next day. Bute sana if 7am makakatulog na siya? Alam nating till afternoon gising pa siya. Thankful nalang tayo kung may at least 5 hours sleep siya. WOW… Dapat mag damayan kayo. Hindi yung naghiwalay ako this morning that you knew she was really hurt tapos this evening may problema ka and you don’t even text her kung nasan ka… nag text ka pa na may problem ka pero pinag-aalala mo naman siya. Iniisp mo ba ano effect nito sa kanya? She cannot even work sa office because aside from her problem, she’s too damn worried where you are! Is this the relationship that she fights for 2 years now? I know na babanat ka nag ‘ano pinag sisisihan niya na pumatol siya sakin’… why don’t you take it as a challenge to change. Kung ako nararamdaman ko to, ano pa kaya nararamdaman niya? Problem niya brother niya pati ikaw….
3am she texted me again, our other friends told me that she looks miserable… she tried na mag work ng magwork for her not to think about her problems. She was so gloomy and doesn’t know where to find money. She doesn’t know where to find her boyfriend problematic … she doesn’t know what to think first. At this very moment I know she wants to cry… to cry alone again…
